The prude in me

I’ve never considered myself to be an old fashioned kind of girl. I’m pretty open minded, I’m tolerant of most things, I don’t really care what you wear, I don’t care who you sleep with, I don’t care how you vote (as long as you vote my way), and I don’t care how you raise your kids. I tell Courtney all the time, you worry about you and I’ll worry about everything else. Same goes for me and raising my own children. Paul and I will work together to raise our kids how we think is best for them. We’ll expose them to different ideals, we’ll take them to different places, we’ll teach them different lessons and help them make their own choices. We’ll steer them in the right direction when we think they’re going astray. And we’ll always do our best to keep them safe.

A friend of mine who lives around the corner called me the other day to tell me that she’d put some bathing suits in our mailbox for Courtney. I’m all about free things, especially free clothes for my kids. So off I went, happily down to the mailbox to discover that the 2 bathing suits were little bikinis. Huh. This is where the open minded, forward thinking me, is a prude and draws some imaginary line.

The bathing suits are pretty cute by toddler bikini standards. They have ruffles and lots of coverage up top. But they’re still bikinis and I just don’t feel they’re appropriate for my girl. I’ve seen small girls in even smaller bikinis than what we now have and can’t help but wonder what the big rush is. Why are we dressing our little girls in the same style bathing suit that a 23 year old with a great rack would wear? I don’t know. I just can’t do it, even if they are cute and ruffly. Fortunately for me, Courtney doesn’t care much about what she wears. Yet. I know the day is coming where we’ll battle it out over what’s appropriate and what isn’t. There’s just no rush.

I’m not sure if this makes me a prude or just overly protective but I’m not sure it matters. Again, they’re my kids and I’ll do what I think is best for them. So thanks neighbor, I appreciate the bathing suits but I think I’ll have to pass them on to someone else. But please keep the shoes coming!


  1. Kelly says:

    I agree very much with this post! I had a bikini I had even bought for when Amelia was like 1 1/2… and I barely ever put her into it and then never used it for Katherine… I think of all the issues, women & body image are one that I know we’ll have to deal with and I don’t want to start it now. I want my babies to be my babies… maybe I am prude who knows!

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