The other night I was doing what I do most nights and reading blogs on the internet and generally wasting time. I often read Roni’s site, she’s a healthy living/healthy eating/weight losing blogger. She has several sites and some really good recipes, all of them healthy and good for you. (She has a kick ass recipe for 100% whole grain pancakes that I just love and is my new breakfast favorite.) Someone sent her a letter, asking for advice and I felt like it was my letter, I could have completely written it myself.
The person who wrote the letter wanted to know why they weren’t getting the results they wanted, when were they going to feel better. There’s lots of goodness in Roni’s response but most importantly she says, “You can NOT hinge your happiness on some magical moment when the weight is gone.” I think I need to make a shirt/magnet/button that says that. And then I need to remind myself of that every day.
I think in all of my life, I’ve never been as happy as I have been the past couple of years. Especially in the past 14 months. Not only have I been fortunate enough to be a stay at home mom to a (usually) wonderful baby girl but I have a (usually) fabulous husband. I’m trying to focus more on my happiness as it surrounds my feelings in the body I was given. Eating well makes me feel good. Exercising makes me feel good. It should be more important that I feel good in my skin than look good in it, right? Right? Right.
I shouldn’t wait for complete happiness in my life until I feel like my body has achieved some magical number on the scale. Sometimes I think I’m going to look back at my life and feel like I’ve spent too many years being pissed about the size of my hips. Or my ass. That’s not what life should be all about.
I need to spend more time loving me for who I am and the body I live in. And work on my relationship with food.
On Sunday I’ll have completed the 30 (45) day Shred. The scale hasn’t moved much but I feel like the measurements may show a difference. It’s a step in the right direction.
Great post! I don’t know about you but I came to this realization after I had my son. I think by becoming a parent something clicks. At least it did for me.
Glad you liked the post.